Virtual hen party: How to throw an unforgettable pre-wedding bash

The ultimate virtual hen do guide.

Virtual hen party

by Jade Moscrop |
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It's fair to say that 2020 has been a bit of a party pooper. All the plans we had have gone out of the window - birthday bashes, reunions, family holidays and, of course, weddings. We all know someone who's had to cancel or postpone their wedding, which means everything that comes with it - like the hen do and stag do.

However, just because we're all confined to our houses doesn't mean that you can't celebrate your friend's wedding from afar. Why not try a virtual hen party?

Even if it's just to tide you over until you can all get together, a virtual hen do is a great way to show your bride-to-be pal that you're still thinking about her and want her to enjoy what should've been her hen do. Or, if you're planning a party for yourself (yes queen), you can enjoy your day to the max.

To help you out with arranging it, we've thought about everything you'll need to do and buy to get sorted for the big day.

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Hosting a virtual hen party

First off, let's start with where you're going to host your virtual hen party. You can choose from the main ones: Facebook Messenger, Houseparty, Zoom or FaceTime, depending on how many people you want to attend. Here's the lowdown on how many people you can have on each:

Facebook Messenger - Up to 50 people

Zoom - Up 100 people

FaceTime - Up to 32 people

Houseparty - Up to eight people

Of course, it's useful to think about how chaotic large video calls can be, so if you opt for a larger number, it's worth setting some ground rules RE muting so that someone can actually talk! If it's just your closest friends, Houseparty is a good option, as you can play games from within the app, too.

One positive about not being confined to a physical space is that you can extend the hen party invites out to a larger group, so if you were limited before, you aren't now.

Once you've decided your guest list, you can create some cute invites using apps like Canva, which can be sent to each attendee, including the bride.

Virtual hen party drinks
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The order of the day

Deciding on a theme, dress code and choice of food are all great ways to make the group feel more connected for the shindig. Rose gold, tropical and festival are some cute themes to tie everything together, or choose something the bride loves and go from there.

It's actually really nice to dress up these days (what a rarity, eh?), so you could ask your group to get dolled up, or have a pyjama party or spa-themed event for a more relaxed feel. If it's a surprise, send the bride a list of things she needs to do/wear, but don't tell her why.

Finally, if everyone's able to, why not have pizza together, or afternoon tea? Each party member can prepare their own meal, but you can all eat together. Don't forget to order one for the bride, too!

Virtual hen party hamper

Next, let's think about treating the bride, and getting the bridesmaids/bride squad everything they need. Splitting the price between the whole group (just like you would on a real hen do) is a good shout to make sure no one is out of pocket.

Creating a cute hamper for the bride is a lovely way to send her some treats and get her ready for the big event. Think booze, a sash, a veil and, naturally, some penis-themed paraphernalia, plus any games you'd like to play on the day.

Plus, you could even send her some face masks and candles so she can chill out and feel zen either before the party, or to recover from the hangover.


Virtual hen party gifts for the bride

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Bride to Be Kit

Every bride on a hen do needs to feel special, and this veil, sash, banner, headband, badge and tattoo set means she can get totally dolled up.

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Menestrello Prosecco

And the most important thing? FIZZ, of course! Treat your bride to a couple of bottles of Prosecco and include some orange juice if she likes mimosas.

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Personalised Mrs T-Shirt

If your bride is a little more understated, a super cute personalised tee should do the trick.

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Personalised Glitter Sash

Don't forget the sash! There are some really cute ones on offer, like this one with classic red glitter writing.

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Tropical Bride to Be Sash

If your bride's a little more extra, this tropical print sash will be right up her street.

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Cream Tea Hamper with Fruit Scones

You can get an actual afternoon tea hamper sent to your bride-to-be's house, with freshly-baked scones. Delish!

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7th Heaven Pamper Peel Off Face Mask Pack

To pamper for the night ahead and recover from the night before, this pack of face masks has everything she needs.

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Satin and Lace Robe - Ivory

Treat your bride-to-be to hen-tastic sleepover theme with this gorgeous ivory robe from Boux Avenue. We doubt she'll ever want to take it off!

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Bacardi Cocktail Delivery

If your bride lives in Bermondsey, Battersea or Whitechapel, you can have cocktails from Bacardi delivered to her house! Bacardi and Deliveroo have teamed up to help the industry stay afloat, so although you can't go out on the town, the town can come to you.

Now, it's time to get the bride squad suited and booted. Think badges, glasses, straws and more!


Hen party gifts

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'Team Bride' Hen Party Tote Bag

First up, grab yourself some cute bags to pop all your goodies in. Paper bags are fine, but they might not travel as well as these gorgeous tote bags (which can be used again and again).

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Hen Party Badges

These badges can be personalised and then sent out to the whole party, so everyone has a little remembrance token to keep.

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Rose Gold Floral Team Bride Hen Party Badge Kit

For something a little more out there, these rose gold badges will really catch your bride's eye on the video steam. These do require some assembly.

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48 Pieces Rose Gold Hen Party Paper Straws

Get everyone on the same page (but also save the environment) by opting for these Team Bride paper straws.

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I Heart Prosecco DOC Sparkling Wine 20cl (Case of 12)

Get the party started by sending each of your attendees a mini bottle of Prosecco in their giftbag.

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Rose Gold Hen Party Glasses

If nothing else, these hen do glasses will look seriously cute on that FaceTime selfie.

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Bridesmaid Lace Trim Kimono - Pink

If you're going with the sleepover vibe, your bridesmaids will need to be kitted out, too! Bonus: these can also be used on the morning of your bride's wedding.

The party playlist

Creating a playlist will really get everyone in the mood to party and you can even make it a group event. Once you've titled the playlist and added some songs, send it around to the group so they can add their choices too. It's a great way to get everyone invovled.

All the attendees can listen to it in the lead-up to the party (pre-drinks, anyone?), or you can have it playing in the background on one person's device once the get together has started.

Bride hair accessories
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Virtual hen party decorations

Sending the bride some decorations so she can feel like she's really at a hen do is a nice idea to really bring it to life. Banners, balloons and more can be ordered online (some balloons even come pre-inflated) in whatever colour theme you're working with.


Hen party decorations

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Hen Party Balloon Banner

Rose gold is popular for hen dos, because it just looks so damn Instagrammable. This set comes with the hen party banner, ribbon, a straw to inflate them, three rose gold balloons, three white balloons, five confetti balloons, one rose gold heart balloon and a gold star balloon.

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Hen Night Bunting

This hen party bunting is a little different to your usual, so it's ideal for an alternative bride.

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Hen Party Bunting

For a truly personal bash, opt for this cute bunting which you can personalise to say whatever you like. Choose your size, colour and font. Note: background decorations not included.

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Rose Gold Team Bride Hen Party Bunting Backdrop

This gold team bride bunting is simple and classy, ideal for adding a touch of bridal glam to your Zoom background. Note: background decorations not included.

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Rose Gold Same Penis Forever Banner

To give your bestie a laugh, opt for this 'Same Penis Forever' banner. Well it's true, isn't it?!

Virtual hen party games

It wouldn't be a hen do without some games, would it?! Luckily, there are lots of games you can play online to have some fun.

As mentioned before, Houseparty has a number of games already built-in, such as Heads Up, Pictionary and trivia quizzes.

You could also create a quiz based around the bride (and groom), to make it feel personalised and really special. If you'd rather try some traditional hen party games, we've got you covered.


Hen party games ideas

I Have Never or Drink If Hen Party Game1 of 4

I Have Never or Drink If Hen Party Game

We've all played the classic 'Never Have I Ever', but this card version ensures you never run out of questions. One person can read them out to the whole group, anyone can pop their own questions in and, of course, hilarity will ensue when the stories are told.

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Horrible Hens - Hen Party Game

Pick a card, read it out, do what it says. It couldn't be simpler! Things are about to get interesting.

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Hen Do Charades

Get ready to laugh at all your friends as they attempt to tell you the name of something without using their voice. These are perfect to slyly record and make into GIFs, by the way...

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Hen Pong Party Drinking Game

No decent hen do would be complete without a game of Prosecco or beer pong, and yes, you can still play from behind a screen. Better suited to smaller groups, just line up your cups as normal on a table, stand at the other end and if you get one in, your opponent drinks.

Virtual hen party activities

If you want to try something really different, we've come up with some ideas that'll make it a night to remember.

You can book a virtual cocktail making class via Mixology Events, where a box of goodies turns up at your door and you're taught how to make cocktails by a profesh.

For a small group, you could host your very own wine tasting and pretend you're sat in a vineyard in France, rather than your five-day old bra and sweats.

If your party loves a crime doc (and who doesn't), you can test their detective skills with an online murder mystery from Red Herring Games.

And yes, of course, you can book a stripper to perform on video for the occasion, but you didn't hear it from us. Or you can buy this inflatable man. #JustSaying.


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