Victoria Beckham: ‘It’s not the same anymore’

Her dreams of Christmas together are shattered

Victoria and David Beckham

by Kate Randall |
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Christmas is going to look different for families up and down the country this year, and that’s no different for celebrities like the Beckhams. While they may be lucky enough to be spending it at their sprawling country estate in the Cotswolds, with all of the restrictions and tough choices they’ve had to make this year, we’re told Victoria is feeling really anxious about it and the future of her increasingly fragmented family. And being separated from her eldest son Brooklyn, as well as tensions between her and husband David, have left her feeling really down.

While the Beckhams are used to hosting big lavish affairs, David and Victoria are currently at loggerheads over who from their extended family to invite in order to stick to the three households rule. “Like everybody, they’ve seen their families a lot less this year – it’s been really tough,” our insider says. “Both have older parents who they worry about, so for Christmas this year, it’s been really difficult to agree who to see.”

To add to Posh’s stress, there’s the fact that 21-year-old Brooklyn will most likely be staying in the US with his fiancée Nicola Peltz, which we’re told Posh is devastated about. And to make matters worse, David is siding with their son, while Vic is left feeling bereft.

“Brooklyn probably won’t be coming back, as he’d have to quarantine for two weeks when he arrives in the UK and again when they get back to the States, which is a huge hassle,” our source says.

Victoria, David and Brooklyn Beckham

“Vic understands, but she’s devastated – her dream Christmas has been ruined, and David has had to calm her down. She also suspects Brooklyn is under pressure from Nicola to spend Christmas with the whole family together. There’s been a bit of a stand-off, as Brooklyn hadn’t really spent that much time with the Peltzes and he feels he has to step up – they’ve invited him for Christmas, so it’s a bit of a dilemma. He knows how gutted his mum is, but he also doesn’t want to disappoint his future wife. He knows that she’s made a real effort to bond with his family, so now he feels he needs to do the same for her.”

But what is really getting the 46-year-old fashion designer down is that she feels this is just the beginning of her family drifting apart permanently. She accepts her sons have found people they want to settle down with early in life, but it does mean she “loses” them quicker. The source continues, “Vic will miss Brooklyn desperately and, for her, this is a taste of what awaits. She knows she might not have all of her children at home together again for Christmas, and that there will always be someone missing as they grow up and have other commitments and people to consider.”

And while the couple – who have been married for 21 years, and also have three other children, Romeo, 18, Cruz, 15, and nine-year-old Harper together – know they’re way more fortunate than most people, it doesn’t stop them getting upset and feeling guilty about their families. We’re told they are trying to compromise, but it’s proving hard as they can both can be quite stubborn. “It’s not that Vic doesn’t want David’s family there, of course she does, but if they have to stick to the rules, then they have to choose,” says the source.

“They’ve thought about doing one side of the family for Christmas Eve, and one side for Christmas Day, but that’s not really allowed, and Vic doesn’t want her parents travelling home from their place on Christmas Day. She and David always host at Christmas and love having big gatherings – their Cotswolds house is perfect for that. They are just hoping they can sort something that pleases everyone.”

CHECK OUT Victoria and David Beckham's relationship through the years


Relationship Timeline: Victoria And David Beckham

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The happy couple moments after their wedding announcement.

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David and Victoria share a moment before flying to Ireland to get married.

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See here, the infamous durag David chose to wear to meet Prince Charles.

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The Beckhams always did couple dressing well, right down to the matching chunky cross chains they wore to the NRJ music awards.

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Spotted at the 2001 Silver Clef Awards.

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Another memorable style moment when the Beckhams attended David Furnish's 40th birthday at Jewel bar in London.

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The MTV music awards was a bejeweled highlight for the pair.

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And this is why the 'black blazer and a pair of jeans' look was such a thing...

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Remember when the Beckhams moved to Spain? It was the early development of David's affection for beanies.

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Victoria and David had dinner at the Ivy in London .

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At the 19 Management's 19th birthday party David and Victoria shared a sweet moment on the red carpet.

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The beanie returned in L.A. As did Victoria's fleeting appreciation for bohemian-inspired styling.

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The Beckhams were pictured on a shopping trip in Paris.

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Another memorable style moment for the Beckhams as they arrived in Venice.

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If anyone were to resurrect the nickname 'Posh and Becks', this image of the pair at the Sport Industry awards is probably one of the ones that comes to mind.

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David and Victoria hit the red carpet at the superhero-themed Met Gala.

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A formal look for the New York launch of the couple's his and hers perfume, 'Signature.'

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The couple launched a collaboration with Adidas, one of their first fashion partnerships.

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David, Victoria, Brooklyn, Romeo and Cruz scrubbed up for the BBC's Sports Personality of the Year awards.

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The couple were invited to the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton.

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Victoria wore a dress from her own collection for the Vanity Fair post-Oscars bash.

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The whole family (minus baby Harper) supported Victoria at the West End launch of the Spice Girls musical, Viva Forever.

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The Beckhams attended the premiere of The Class of 92 en famille.

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David and Victoria returned to the steps of the Met in 2014, bringing back their matchy-matchy couples aesthetic with these white outfits.

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Attending the British Fashion Awards.

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On a trip to Shanghai.

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A night out in Mayfair.

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Looking chic at the Louis Vuitton show.

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David and Victoria were guests at Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's Windsor wedding.

David and Victoria Beckham

Our source says the family have already started prepping their London and Cotswolds homes for the big day, and have been trying to make things feel as festive as possible. They are also thinking about what to do for New Year, and are currently torn between staying in the UK or going away somewhere exotic. Last year, they stayed in the Cotswolds, but previous years have seen them take trips to places luxury destinations such as the Maldives, which the whole family is keen on doing. But our source says even that might not be the escape Victoria is hoping for.

“She thinks that if she can’t be with Brooklyn for Christmas, then they can go away for New Year somewhere nice and hot,” we’re told. “Originally, the plan was for Brooklyn and Nicola to do Christmas in America with the Peltz family, and then fly out to do the Beckham tropical family holiday. But with so many routes uncertain, it’s going to be a last-minute decision, so it’s up in the air. Brooklyn is genuinely upset, as he really misses his mum and loves Christmas so much. He wants to make New Year happen, but no one knows what will be possible.”

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But whatever happens this Christmas, the insider insists that both David, 45, and Victoria are determined to have a great time and pull out all the stops for whoever is there, especially after the year everyone has had. “They know 2020 has been tough on everyone – not just them. And they want to celebrate Christmas in style,” says the source. “David especially wants them to go all-out with the food, drink and decorations, and really turn their home into a Winter Wonderland. Whatever they decide to do, they know that the kids will have an amazing time, and that is the main thing. They’ve spent a lot of time together this year and want to finish it on a high.”

The source adds, “Whoever gets an invite will have a great time and any issues between David and Victoria will be put behind them. Having fun and a special family day is what’s most important to them.”

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